Pick Your Presence…

Today I saw a promotional board for a new housing development that said “Pick your Presents.” As we were whizzing by, I didn’t get to see the small print, but I’m guessing the promotion was for new homeowners to be able to pick or choose some type of feature for their new home. Not sure. As I said, we were whizzing by (the hubby was driving). Anyway, the promotional wording stuck with me. When I saw it, I immediately thought of the goal I have for myself this year.

Mind you, I’m not making New Year Resolutions. I don’t ever keep them past a month, so there’s no reason for me to even attempt to make a list of things that I’m not going to do. Plus, I don’t want to feel bad at the end of the year because I didn’t follow through. But what I am doing is making a choice to “Pick my Presence.” In the past, I have been guilty of not living in the moment. I have always had a tendency to worry. I worried about stuff that didn’t even need worrying about. My mom has often wondered why I haven’t had an ulcer yet. I worry about that myself. (LOL)

In all seriousness, I’ve decided from here on, to live in the moment. I am going to enjoy each minute I have on Earth, because as we all know, life is short and no man knows the day nor the hour in which we will leave this place.  I’m not going to spend my time worrying about what may or may not happen or even if something will go wrong. I am going to enjoy life and really engage in it. Now, for many of you, this may not be a big deal. Many of you are already living in the moment. You’ve already figured out this wonderful way of living, but for me this is a big step. For those people who know me well, they understand how huge this is for me. It may take me a moment to finally quit worrying about what people may say or what people may do or think. However, I’ve been given a present (presence) and I’m going to enjoy it.

Wishing you bliss and a Happy New Year!


My advice…

A few weeks ago, I was interviewed by another 5 Prince Publishing Author, Christina OW. If you haven’t checked out her novels, I highly suggest that you do so. Her Black Widow Series is heating up and the 3rd installment, Fatal Desire, is about to release on November 5th!

In August, she featured me as one of the authors on her “Tell All” Series and it was a lot of fun to share my experiences and my journey to publication with her followers and I thought, wait a minute. Maybe I should share that here with you guys too. So, if you missed it on her blog, here’s another look at my Tell All post.

(Previously published on https://christinaow.wordpress.com/)

I get asked a lot of questions when people find out that I’m a published author. It’s usually the same ones:

  • What’s your process?
  • How long does it take you to write a book?
  • How did you find your publisher?

Believe me; I don’t mind the questions at all; because it wasn’t too long ago that I was on the other side asking those same questions to published authors. If I have any advice to impart on anyone that desires to be published it is, 1) ask questions, 2) keep writing and 3) never accept no as the final answer.

  • Asking questions is the best thing you could ever do.I asked questions in a couple of ways. I joined online writing groups, took a few creative writing courses and I started following blogs of authors I liked. I read their blogs and a lot of the questions I had would be answered that way. However, if I didn’t find the answers there, many times the authors would have a contact area on their website and I would submit questions to them. One thing I’ve always been told, if you never ask, you’ll never know. So continue to ask questions constantly. Also, if you have a local bookstore, check out their events. Many times they will host opportunities for you to see authors that visit. Authors will do signings and many times they will read part of their book and then open up the opportunity for guest to ask questions. This is a great chance for you to get more answers and insights concerning writing and the publishing process.
  • Keep writing.Whether you have an idea for a book or not, try and get into the habit of writing daily. Even if it’s just a blog post or a rant that will never be published or no one will ever read. It’s like exercising. If you want to build up your muscles, you take the time to work out each day. If you want to build your vocabulary and build your writing abilities, you have to exercise your writing skills.
  • And finally, and I feel like this is the most important thing I could ever tell anyone. Never take no as the final answer.I can’t even begin to tell you how many rejection letters and emails I received before I received an offer. It is disheartening, it’s sad and it’s a horrible feeling when you are rejected. We all go through it at some time or another in our lives, but know that you are not alone and where one may not want your work, someone else may. I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t take the rejections personally. I kept each of my rejections as badges of honor. Believe me, when I first received them, I didn’t want to read them. However, later I went back and read them again. And I noticed a running thread through them all. Each one would allude to the fact that my writing was great, but they just didn’t have a passion for the story. Honestly, that’s the kind of rejection you want because you want your publisher or your literary agent to be passionate about the story you want to tell. They will be your biggest supporters and will help you get your story to the world. They need to have a passion for it.

So, keep plugging away. Keep writing, keep reading and asking questions and don’t take no for an answer. There are various ways to get to publication and everyone has a different path to take.